My Journal |

Why is it that this question is common to most of husbands and wives. During courtship women feel so special and secured because of the special treatment their husbands gives to them. Probably, some men also think  "Why is it that she is no longer taking care of me after having our children?". There are "she says","he says" in a relationship. This means that there are things that men don’t understand about women and vice versa. They seem to have different languages of love.

Way back, I used to ask my husband "Why is it that your treatment to me when you were still courting me is no longer the same as today? Before I always get your attention more than anything else. But now you don’t seem to listen to me at all. It feels like you’re more interested in watching television and your computer."

Probably my husband also have some complaints about me but he just stays quiet. I always ask him what is wrong with me but he seemed to edit the things that is in his mind. My husband is a very kind person. Maybe he is just practicing his patience with me. Accepting me for who I am. I always complain a lot, maybe he is just understanding my attitude and accepting me for who I am. I used to get mad at him, sometimes i tend to hurt him and myself. There were times when i would ask him to end this marriage. But he never gave up on me. He tried to understand me. He continued to be a good example as a Christian.

My husband is not perfect like any other guy. He probably is kind and loving but there are things that i hate about him. That is when he becomes very insensitive. He really makes me feel that he doesn’t care about me when he is like that sometimes. But God is good. He did not let this misunderstanding last. He  improved a lot and myself as well.

We started to study the word of God as a couple and learned from it. Now, I can say that our marriage really is different from before. When we have some misunderstandings, we can settle it at once. We find time to talk. I used to get furious everytime he is in front of the computer but now I understand. I already enjoy the things that he enjoys. We have adjusted our attitudes with one another. I cannot say that our marriage is perfect but God works in us and our marriage as well. And our treatment with one another also improved our relationship with our kids.

Let us make GOd the center of our relationship. God keeps our marriage strong and I’m sure He will do the same with you if you just let Him.